The essence of friendship....

Life is so unpredictable! We never know the true sides of people, what they're thinking, what exactly is going in their mind. The people who we think are our soulmates, so called "best friends" change overnight. The people whom we're admiring, appreciating yesterday are now turned into enemies and haters! Why? What had happened? What lacked in their friendship? 

The answer is Respect for one other, trust and understanding one another. Friendship does expect certain things, it's the only place where we can demand something and receive it. For eg: help, hug, chai. All we expect in friendship is love and respect because it's the basic requirement and we all deserve it. As parents expect their children to score good marks, behave good, society expects a good citizen etc. Friendship is the unconditional bond and conspicuous love where you can be truly yourself. It does not necessarily need pretending, appreciating, admiring, pleasing your friend. What you need is love, trust, respect, unity, loyalty, understanding to one another and a little care is necessary. Your actions prove friendship and not your words but yes they do mean. Teasing, scolding at their mistakes, supporting and motivating them is highly needed. Defending your friend's name at their backs is what make you a true friend and a genuine person. 

But sometimes we get extremely involved in each other's lives that we forget that our friend too has his/her own personal life and personal space. Yes, it's necessary to keep your friend's back when they're in need, but not always. Sometimes what we need is time with ourselves, we need our friend's to just listen to us, our feelings without any advice in back. But sometimes what a friend does is he/she starts explaining things, what and where it went wrong, who is at mistakes, etc which is no need of time. That's the reason where a person starts suffocating in that kind of friendship. S/he feels like I just wanted to share some words, my feelings but no it all turned into a lecture which I never wanted nor needed. And when you have got a friend who internally judges you and gets angry by not living your life as per his/her expectations is worst. They need to understand that you're just a friend you can claim your friendship but somewhere you can't claim over that friend's life. 

Friendship too is a delicate bond and it too needs care, love. But giving over can really over it. Accept and give freedom to your friendship.

sketches by :- Meghna Pujari.... 💗